YOU CANNOT HEAL BY GOING BACK TO WHAT BROKE YOU

We cry when we get hurt. It takes a little bit of time to heal. Some people take weeks, months or even years to get over something that broke them. It will take a whole lot of effort to pick up the pieces and glue yourself back together. This is just one of the few consequences of letting your guards down. 

You’ll feel like there’s nothing left for you. Because you’ve given your everything, it’s hard to picture a tomorrow without that missing piece. It will feel like that for a while. Some people get over it, some just get used to it. It’s a matter of how you deal with it to still function or how you want people to see you. 

Fake it til you make it. When you walk around making it obvious that you’ve been hurt, people will ask. People ask either because they’re concerned, but really some people ask just because they’re nosy. Which is true 80% of the time. So sometimes, putting a front, smiling your way to recovery helps a lot. It helps trick your mind that you’re happy. People will stop asking, and the more you don’t talk about what broke you, the faster you heal. 

You will not heal by going back to what broke you.  After getting hurt, you do your best to glue yourself back in place. You do things you’ve never done before and you start to venture outside your comfort zone for the sake of your own sanity and recovery. Hoping there’s really something out there for you and start to believe it. It took you so much to get where you are and then one day, all that is threathened by a knock from the past. It’s a disaster in disguise. Some people won’t see it coming and they get sucked back in. Just like that. But a few will learn what the differences between what’s better and what’s not. Hopefully, you choose not to get drowned like before. 

Everyday is a challenge. But knowing you’re getting yourself back should be more than enough of a motivation. Because you belong to you first and you deserve yourself before someone else. 

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IT’S TIME TO GET OVER IT

Wake up. I mean get out of bed. Wash your face and eat something without forcing it out. Put in your running shoes maybe. Go for a run. You don’t have to have a destination.  Stop thinking about him. Stop thinking about what could’ve been. I hate to be that person but, move on. Start the process at least. Look at yourself. You look hideous. Stop playing victim. Take charge. Take care of yourself. It’s all you now. 

EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES

Everyone makes mistakes. It’s part of life. Without mistakes, we would not have lessons. Of Course, it’s always easier to hate and view mistakes as.. Well, mistakes. Things always happen for a reason. So never regret your mistakes. Instead, learn from them. Grow from it and use it to your own advantage in the future. Mistakes infact make you wiser, and more responsible. It’s time to change how we look at things. Most of the time, mistakes are blessings in disguise. So keep your eyes and mind open. 

THOUGHTS: INDEPENDENT PRINCESSES

Maybe the princess can save herself, that sounds like a good story too. Infact, I think people should write stories like that more often. It sounds more realistic. It sounds independent and strong. It doesn’t mean that your prince will never arrive, but nowadays you have to know how to save yourself too. You cannot always depend on anyone. Prince Charming should be a plus, not a must. People need to write more stories about making it alone or achieving happiness alone. Because there’s nothing wrong with being alone. For awhile, or forever. We need to write more stories about making sure little girls know that it’s okay to enjoy life without a prince. We need to stop painting a picture where they grow up believing that someone, a boy, is going to come and rescue them one day and everything will be rainbows and butterflies, because it’s not always true. Instead, we need to teach them how to be independent. That they will still kickass even without a boy. They can own the world. On their own if they prefer to. 

THOUGHTS: TRUST THE PROCESS

You may love the wrong person, cry for the wrong reasons, but one thing is for sure, mistakes help us to find the right person. Take every experience as a lesson and always try to look at the good side. If things did not work out the way you thought they were, cry it out or do whatever you need to do. Just don’t forget that it’s not the end of the world. Someone out there is looking for somebody like you. They’re probably making the same mistakes too. Crying for the wrong reasons as well and currently loving someone who will eventually make them realize they aren’t meant for each other. Because you aren’t them. Mistakes will bring you two together. Just trust the process. 

WHEN THEY LOVE YOU BACK 

Have you ever loved someone? Doesn’t it feel amazing? But you know what’s better? To be loved by them back. It’s a feeling that I would wish everyone to have or experience atleast once in a lifetime. You wake up everyday and you always have something and someone to look forward to. Them. Especially when you wake up next to them and see them in their deep sleep. Observing them and seeing every little details of their face. Or when they wake you up with a kiss on your forehead. When you open your eyes and see them already smiling at you and then they say good morning. You always feel like every morning is the best morning ever. Just knowing that someone is also thinking of you the way you think of them. Knowing someone sees your flaws as features, something that makes you perfect instead of viewing them as simply flaws. And of course, knowing someone is there to love you and someone you know you can depend on when life gets tough.