YOU CANNOT HEAL BY GOING BACK TO WHAT BROKE YOU

We cry when we get hurt. It takes a little bit of time to heal. Some people take weeks, months or even years to get over something that broke them. It will take a whole lot of effort to pick up the pieces and glue yourself back together. This is just one of the few consequences of letting your guards down. 

You’ll feel like there’s nothing left for you. Because you’ve given your everything, it’s hard to picture a tomorrow without that missing piece. It will feel like that for a while. Some people get over it, some just get used to it. It’s a matter of how you deal with it to still function or how you want people to see you. 

Fake it til you make it. When you walk around making it obvious that you’ve been hurt, people will ask. People ask either because they’re concerned, but really some people ask just because they’re nosy. Which is true 80% of the time. So sometimes, putting a front, smiling your way to recovery helps a lot. It helps trick your mind that you’re happy. People will stop asking, and the more you don’t talk about what broke you, the faster you heal. 

You will not heal by going back to what broke you.  After getting hurt, you do your best to glue yourself back in place. You do things you’ve never done before and you start to venture outside your comfort zone for the sake of your own sanity and recovery. Hoping there’s really something out there for you and start to believe it. It took you so much to get where you are and then one day, all that is threathened by a knock from the past. It’s a disaster in disguise. Some people won’t see it coming and they get sucked back in. Just like that. But a few will learn what the differences between what’s better and what’s not. Hopefully, you choose not to get drowned like before. 

Everyday is a challenge. But knowing you’re getting yourself back should be more than enough of a motivation. Because you belong to you first and you deserve yourself before someone else. 

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FIGHT FOR YOURSELF

When you say someone is worth the fight, make sure you include yourself too. Make sure you tell yourself that you’re worth it. Make sure you treasure yourself just as much as you treasure others. Actually, you should treasure yourself more than anything and anyone. Because well, the more you love yourself, the more you can love others. It’s the truth. Make sure you are never unfair to yourself. Make sure you never lie to yourself. Because it becomes a habit. If no one else, show yourself how you should be treated. Fight for yourself. And what you want. Fight for what you feel. What do I mean by that? It could be as simple as letting yourself drive to Starbucks at 11:00 at night because you want a vanilla bean frappe. Spoil yourself like how you would want to spoil someone you love. Enjoy. 

GIRLS ARE LIKE GENIES

It’s not hard to impress a girl who adores you. Your presence alone is probably the best gift you can give her. You have to realize that she looks forward to seeing you everyday  and wishes she could be with you all the time. A girl who adores you will not care about fancy things because she will care more about the effort.  She will not pressure you to do anything you do not like. She will understand and appreciate. She will be selfless. She will not take you away from your friends. She will trust you. Of course though, you would have to treasure that if you want to keep it that way. Girls are like genies. You have to rub them the right way or else they’ll act or turn into something almost unbelievable. They do things because they follow what they feel. Don’t plant anything but good thoughts in their minds because their gut feelings are powerful. They almost don’t have a cap when it comes to emotions. They feel too much. 

DON’T RUSH

The person you will marry is currently walking the earth, living their own life, creating memories, good and bad that you will hear about years from now. So get out there and do the same. Enjoy your life and enjoy yourself. Actually, stop looking for him or her. You will find each other when the time is right, at the right place. Meanwhile, you go experience as much as you can. Travel around and try new things. Enjoy your friends’ company and meet people. Nobody said you can’t have fun single. Enjoy it while you can. The breeze will seem different when you meet him. So enjoy the now and what’s in front of you. Go on a date with yourself. Enjoy your family. Help the helpless and spread love. Be kind. Document everything if you can so that one day, you can share it with him or her, and maybe decide to do it together. Have fun and don’t rush. 

BE HONEST

Nowadays it’s hard to find someone whose willing to stick it out with you through hard times. A lot of people want to be in a relationship only for the good times and to have fun, and when it gets down to it and when life throws you both lemons, some people are so quick to take a step back saying they weren’t ready or that they want to take a break. Before you walk into something like a relationship, make sure you know that relationships aren’t always rainbows and butterflies. And if you are the type of person who are not ready for anything serious and simply just want companionship, then be honest about it. You’d be surprise how many people are looking for just that. There’s no reason to be ashamed about it. In fact, you’re doing someone a favor by being honest. 

EXPRESS HOWEVER YOU WANT

I’m not going to sit here and pretend that everyone’s  the same when it comes to expressing what they feel. I’m not going to say, “hey, when you feel some type of way, you should say it. Or else you’ll feel like shit all day. ” because well, some people are simply born more reserved than others. I could tell you straight in your face to shut up because you’re offending me. I could do it without a shame. But there are others that wouldn’t be able to do that. Not because they’re P words, but because they are just different. I’m not here to fill your head with all the benefits of being prank with others, but I’m here to tell you what will happen if you’re not. In some ways, if you want to go through a day especially a tough one, you have to be able to express how you’re feeling. In your own way. If you can’t be prank face to face, no problem. Write it down. Just to make yourself feel better. Don’t let others walk all over your feelings. Because if you don’t do anything about it, you’ll never be able to breathe again.