How long until the day you get over him? The moment you decide to. That could be ten years from now when you finally get tired of hoping. Or that could be in the next ten seconds. It’s really all about you. Nobody else. It’s you who control your own mind and what can go in it. It’s you who control and decide what you think about every second of the day. So you ask, when? The real question is when do you want to get over him? When you finally say and decide enough. When you finally tell yourself you need to get on something else or you’ll spend your life crying about someone. That will be the day of the beginning of you getting over someone. Time is not going to heal you unless you let it. That means you have to decide when.
Give yourself a break. Give yourself compliments. Give yourself credit. Give yourself time. Give yourself attention. Give yourself love. Give yourself power. He’ll let yourself be free. Get yourself ice cream. A whole tub of it! Tell yourself what you want to hear. You don’t need to wait in anyone to do that for you. Let yourself enjoy your passion without worrying about other people liking it or not. Without worrying about people calling you a weirdo. Be a weirdo. Be an awesome weirdo. Give yourself opportunities. Give yourself everything that you want. Give yourself to you.
Not everyone is meant to stay in your life. Some people are temporary. And I know you have heard people say nothing is permanent but I honestly do not believe in that. I believe that some are meant to go, most people in fact. But few will stay forever. We often not see or realize those who stay because we don’t either don’t appreciate them, or we are so focused on people who aren’t meant to stay. You have to embrace and appreciate the beauty of it though. Open your mind about these things more because the sooner you accept it, the better and healthier for you. Emotionally especially. Learn to let things go.
Just because the past did not turn out how you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you’ve ever imagined. I have made decisions and regretted some actions that I wish I could take back. There were things and situations that i wished turned out differently and sometimes even opposite. Back then I wondered and worried sick about how it was going to affect my future. But then I realized that things happen for a reason. Even though I didn’t like it a lot, every situation sure taught me something. Whether if it was a huge deal back then or not, if I learnt something, I began and decided to be thankful. Even if it took a little longer to realize why things happened that way, I am glad it did. We don’t realize how big of a good impact a negative experience can give us. I am as happy as I can be. And mostly because I learned to let go and trained myself to look at the good in every situation. Even if I didn’t like it, I chose to be open minded. So be patient. Trust the process.
You know when you like someone and then they stop talking to you and you finally accept the fact that you’re not speaking anymore, but then they talk to you again so you’re like, “wait, wtf…” *eyes squinting* So you’re sitting there, confused. And you don’t really know how to feel about this. Are you a second option? Or you just haven’t made it clear enough that you like him so he didn’t really think it was a big deal to stop talking for a while? Or maybe he changed his mind? You sit there and stare at your phone, at his text wondering how you’re supposed to reply. And then you start to become defensive and think, “uh uh, you can’t just come back and think it was okay to not talk to me…” So you ignore the text for about five minutes maybe less. Less actually. Because you realize you still really like him. So you tell yourself to suck it up. You decide to test it, but with one foot left behind because you’re not sure and you’re scared to get disappointed. So what is it gonna be?
Date someone who would still be your favorite person to be around even if there was nothing physical in your relationship. Nowadays, it feels as though when you’re in a relationship, you’re obligated to offer your body for the sake of the relationship when people, especially girls should know you don’t need to. Not when you aren’t ready. Not when you do not feel comfortable. Your body is a temple and you should only let the one you truly trust to kiss it let alone to touch it. I’ve always been a huge hopeless romantic even as a little kid and I understood that later on two people are eventually going to get physical. But at the right time. And that means when both of you are ready. Do not be afraid to say no. Do not be afraid to say you are not ready yet. After all, if a person really cares for you, he or she will understand. Date someone who will be there because they love you more than physical touch.