Do not be surprised when people promise you that they’re not going to change, but then they do. Some people change when their feelings toward something changes. There’s nothing you can do about it. Some people grow up. They learn how to work and live around some things.. There’s nothing permanent in this world. Even loving someone. How much you love a person cannot ever stay in one spot. It will either progress, or fail. You’ll either stay and nourish a relationship, or find something better. Either or, change is around. Change doesn’t have to be bad, unlike how most people make them seem to be. People somehow like to only focus on the negative side of everything. It’s time to change that. Change can be amazing. Don’t take it for granted. Change is good.
I understand that you just want to be loved. Trust me, I have read and heard you talk about it enough. But that doesn’t justify why you should let someone walk all over you. You are not being loved. You are being taken advantage of. You are being taken for granted. You like to think you are being loved because that’s what you have been looking for. Hey, wake up. You are only fooling yourself. If you want to be loved, accept what’s infront of you. How do you expect to be loved by the right one, when you’re the one stopping it from happening? Don’t be a doormat. The right person who is meant to love you will not walk all over you. He or she will not let anyone walk all over you. He or she will be there to defend your honor whether you are present or not. The right one will respect you. It’s better to let someone walk away from you than walk all over you.
Just because the past did not turn out how you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you’ve ever imagined. I have made decisions and regretted some actions that I wish I could take back. There were things and situations that i wished turned out differently and sometimes even opposite. Back then I wondered and worried sick about how it was going to affect my future. But then I realized that things happen for a reason. Even though I didn’t like it a lot, every situation sure taught me something. Whether if it was a huge deal back then or not, if I learnt something, I began and decided to be thankful. Even if it took a little longer to realize why things happened that way, I am glad it did. We don’t realize how big of a good impact a negative experience can give us. I am as happy as I can be. And mostly because I learned to let go and trained myself to look at the good in every situation. Even if I didn’t like it, I chose to be open minded. So be patient. Trust the process.
Fast replies make me think you actually want to talk to me. But slow replies make me think that you’re talking to someone better. I don’t know why. I seem to have attached my soul to you. It’s shameful and I don’t like feeling this dependent on someone. Let alone let my happiness depend on a person. I have read so many rules when it comes to relationships and happiness. They all say the same. To not let your happiness be dependent on someone. It’s probably the dumbest thing you can do. Well, here I am. I thought I stood firmly by those words and articles but here I am. Weak as hell and feeling like the dumbest person on earth. How did I not see it coming? I have no idea. It caught me off guard. I actually thought I was doing fine, and I am the strongest person when it comes to having pride. But then whatever it is, life maybe? Never fails to prove me wrong.
No matter how angry you get, you always end up forgiving the person you love. Why? That’s the same question most people ask and to be honest, I don’t even know why… Not yet anyway. But I have my own answers. Just to justify my actions and why I forgive the people I love most. Now when I say this, this doesn’t mean I let people step all over me. Of course, I know my worth. I would never let anyone cheat on me or dehumanize me. Of course, I assess the situation. Always. I forgive the people I love because in every situation, after contemplating of its worth losing the person, the answer is always no. I forgive the people I love not only because I simply love them, but because despite of what happened or what they did, they make life worth it. I also believe that you being in that situation kind of tests your love for others.
“Good relationships don’t just happen. ”
Yes they do. Not always. Not all the time, but some good relationships just happen. Two people can meet at the most random place on earth and just like that, they can click and decide to settle. Not because they’re lazy or bored with everyone else, but because they just feel it. And yes, that is posible. It might not be love at first sight, but it’s posible to fall for someone in one meeting. And just like that, they open up a whole new chapter and would last forever.