When you get hurt, why do you all of a sudden turn into a bitter person? Not only that, why are you so desperate to act tough and look like you are having the time of your life instead of facing what hurts and make amends with it? Because let me tell you something. You displaying yourself out there being wild, just to make sure people notice that you are “okay” just makes you look very pitiful.
Why are you so obsessed with making sure you look like the “strong” one? Because being strong does not mean looking strong and pretending that everything is okay. Just because you post a picture of you holding booze does not mean you do not go home and read through old messages and cry yourself to sleep. Just because you post a picture of you having a great time at a local bar with a bunch of strangers does not mean you do not take a peek at your phone every two minutes just to see if he called or texted… While you’re “having fun”
You seem to forget that you are human and humans get hurt. Humans love and humans get disappointed. You are supposed to cry when you are unhappy. Let alone when you are heart broken. It is normal. Pain is inevitable. It happens and it is bound to happen again.
Do not say you will never love again. Do not say you will never trust again. Granted, it will take time to trust again. You are not a robot. You will fall again when you are ready. You are entitled to express your own grief, but do not cheat yourself of love that you deserve and you are destined to or with in the future just because you temporarily got hurt.
Picture this. It is ten o’clock in the morning and you are just waking up, buried between white sheets and eight pillows, you feel like you are floating or laying on a cloud that is floating around. It is not cold but not hot either. You breathe in and the smell of freshness makes you want to open your eyes and you do. The open windows greet you with a mild wind blowing that is just perfect so you can smell leaves and flowers that are planted right outside and as you get up to walk to the window you hear nothing but the birds, wind and the sound of the old wooden floor as you walk on them…
Do something fun and leave everything behind for a day or maybe two. Or maybe forever. Wake up late and leave your hair down. Break the routine for a change. Breath and sit to enjoy a cup of Jo. Turn off you phone and silent your emails. Go somewhere where it is quiet and where you feel most alive.
Before anything, I just want to say you are wrong honey buns. Just because a boy broke your heart does not mean there are no good guys left. Even though I cannot blame you, you probably do not know better especially now that you are aching. But to ache is fine and it is normal. But generalizing men is not right. Just like if a boy said all women are the same. Clearly they are not.
Granted it is hard to find a good woman or man these days. We have so much going on. Social media alone. Have you seen these Instagram and Twitter models? Now a days, a lot of people like to venture first before settling down. I do not see anything wrong with it really. But in my opinion, it just takes all the purity of how love should be you know? Still, that is not an excuse to generalize men. My heart was broken too. More than once and twice. But it did not stop me from hoping someone was out there waiting to treat me good. Instead, I tool notes because I learned what I did not want in a relationship. That is what you should be doing instead of just thinking it is the end of the world. Also, it might be the direction that you are looking at. Have you ever thought of that? Wait for a man with priorities and responsibilities. Dont surround yourself with men who clearly only worries about their shoes.
Time will heal you and you will be happy again. But be positive. There are still good men out there.