Somebody asked me an interesting question today, and that is.. How do you cut off toxic people? My answer is simple, and that is.. SIMPLY STOP TALKING TO THEM. “But it’s not that easy.” YES IT IS…
It really is. As we grow up, we face reality also known as priorities. Different people have different priorities. I am a 21 year old woman and I am pregnant and married. My priorities cannot be the same as a 21 year old woman who is single and is working on getting on a Mercy Ship. Although it is a great thing to do and I applaud everybody who is on that ship or has been on it. Or my priorities cannot be the same as a 21 year old woman who is single and loves to party. There is nothing wrong with that just so I am clear. I hope you get my point.
At some point of my life though, I had to cut off toxic people for many reasons and the sooner you realize this, the sooner you can become a happier person and become a more productive human being. If that someone you are wanting to cut off is a close friend for a long time or someone you have a great attachment with, try talking to them first. Tell them how you feel. I would not cut off someone without attempting to make things better. So, tell them and so the ball is in their court. They decide. And if nothing changes, then just cut them off. No contacts or emails sort of cut off. Because we all grow up and sometimes we have to make adult decisions for the sake of our own happiness.
You should only surround yourself with people who push you to want to become a better person. Trust me, you need them. And if you are in the stage of thinking about cutting off toxic people, 99% of the time, this is the time where you realize that your family will always be there for you no matter what.
Give them huge hugs for me.